Friendships like these

A friend of mine made an interesting statement today; she said 

"A lot of friendships break because people confuse miscommunication with betrayal." 

I felt so enlightened; there was so much truth in that statement. I mean how many of you out there can think of a scenario where you or someone you know has stopped talking to a friend because of something that was said or not said, where at that moment it seemed like total betrayal, but when you really look at it, it boils down to miscommunication. I'm talking about the way a conversation was approached, how it was said, or how it wasn't said.

In this day and age a lot of us rely on social networks whether we use it as our own personal diary, (rolled eyes) to keep up with latest news or to keep up friendships a lot of us do rely on it.

Some of us are so dependant on social networks we forget how to have a face to face conversation. Social networks conversation are sometimes done in short hand because you can only have a certain amount of characters, or because it’s simply too long to write a full blown conversation (laziness). So when we are having a discussion with a friend via Facebook or BBM words and comments get misconstrued because conversations are not being fully had. People take things as a personal attack and the friendship is history. 

NOW there are some people who are way ahead of their time and think that mind reading and physic connections are available to the mass public. How is one supposed to know that one is going through a hard time if that person is not forthcoming with information? Are the days gone when people would call a friend if they are going through problems? Are social media's to be blamed for this? We live in an age where friendships are becoming a myth, we are not having proper conversations, we aren't respecting each other and we aren't respecting the history of a friendship. Some people have been friends for so long and all because of a few words or no words friendships are dying.

I had a friend who told me that he thinks our “friendship is dead” because I was not making an effort to call or come see him, while I did agree with where he was coming from, I couldn’t get over his self righteous approach. The way he spoke you would think he called me every other day to see how I was doing and that so wasn’t the case, he was just as guilty. His whole advance was little off key, needless to say that friendship went down hill, we have cordial conversations when see each other but that’s about it.

I'm sure we all have our own rules and regulations about friendships, some need to understand that it doesn't always match up with others. Is that where the problem lies?  Are we entering friendships blind? Or have we just simply grown out of that friendship?

I do believe that we all need friends even if it's one, they are our support network our everything. If your friendship has broken after a long time respect the history, be thankful for what you had and move on.

Peace&Love