A friend of mine made an interesting statement today; she said
"A lot of friendships break because people confuse miscommunication with betrayal."
I felt so enlightened;
there was so much truth in that statement. I mean how many of you out
there can think of a scenario where you or someone you know
has stopped talking to a friend because of something that was said or
not said, where at that moment it seemed like total betrayal, but
when you really look at it, it boils down to miscommunication. I'm talking
about the way a conversation was approached, how it was said, or how
it wasn't said.
In this day and
age a lot of us rely on social networks whether we use it as our own personal
diary, (rolled eyes) to keep up with latest news or to keep up friendships a
lot of us do rely on it.
Some of us are so
dependant on social networks we forget how to have a face to
face conversation. Social networks conversation are sometimes done in
short hand because you can only have a certain amount of characters, or because
it’s simply too long to write a full blown conversation (laziness). So when we
are having a discussion with a friend via Facebook or BBM
words and comments get misconstrued because conversations are not being fully
had. People take things as a personal attack and the friendship is
history.
NOW there are some
people who are way ahead of their time and think that mind reading and physic
connections are available to the mass public. How is one supposed to know that
one is going through a hard time if that person is not forthcoming with information?
Are the days gone when people would call a friend if they are going through
problems? Are social media's to be blamed for this? We live in an age
where friendships are becoming a myth, we are not having proper conversations,
we aren't respecting each other and we aren't respecting the history of a friendship.
Some people have been friends for so long and all because of a few words or no
words friendships are dying.
I had a friend who told me that he thinks our “friendship is dead”
because I was not making an effort to call or come see him, while I did agree
with where he was coming from, I couldn’t get over his self righteous approach. The way he spoke you would think he called me every other day to see how I was
doing and that so wasn’t the case, he was just as guilty. His whole advance was
little off key, needless to say that friendship went down hill, we have cordial
conversations when see each other but that’s about it.
I'm sure we all have our own rules and regulations about friendships,
some need to understand that it doesn't always match up with others. Is that where
the problem lies? Are we entering friendships blind? Or have we just simply grown out of that friendship?
I do believe that we all need friends even if it's one, they are our support network our everything. If your friendship has broken after a long time respect the history, be thankful for what you had and move on.
Peace&Love
